Babies and Beyond

I love babies! 

Most mornings I get up feeling a little low about not maybe having a little one by my side.It seems like so many people are getting pregnant out there, without even trying & that god is testing me so badly. 

Its like there is a void in my life , that I'm not able to fill.

When V and I attend parties or get togethers, it seems to be everybody's business to  ask us " arey 3 years up na? what about having children?" If only they knew, how much we crave to have children. 

What annoys me is how they think it is their business to ask us. Do they not think about what the situation is for the couple in question? 

And its beyond my comprehension as to how typically people respond when you tell them that you are         "trying", they will come out with the biggest list of gynecs  in the city and who's best and who's not. 

There was a point in my life 4 months back  when they only thing I was worried about was ovulation, periods and everything babies.. It took over my life and made me crazy, irritable and sad. 

But then after speaking to a friend it dawned on me that i need to relax and let go. I figured that the day i stop freaking out about having babies and start living my life is when i guess things will fall in place for me. 

I find that a lot of women are not able to conceive naturally anymore and are having to opt for IVF and IUI procedure and go through some major medical bashing in order to get pregnant. Thats why when i see girls/women ( in their late 20's) that are in their  " I'm-not-ready-to-get-married-and-have-children" phase, I tell them that they must not delay these things( while trying not risk sounding like a grandmother).

 There is a reason why our mothers and grandmothers had an abundance of healthy children naturally. There is a reason why they got married young. They were fertile and their bodies were biologically ready to have babies. Which is why today those mothers are in their 40's and 50's and are able to enjoy watching their little babies grow into young adults and enjoy their children's life, without feeling like they are too old. 

We are amidst way too many lifestyle related diseases. PCOD, cervical cancers, ovarian cancers, fibroids and so much more.Our want for a fast paced life, has only helped escalate the pace at which out bodies are dying.Younger women are smoking and drinking. Women do not have it in their system to smoke. We are child bearers, one can only imagine what smoking does to our system.

I only pray that this coming new year blesses you all with good health and good sense and well of-course  me with babies :)