They said, " Arranged Marriage".. and I said ok :)
I was 23 and he was 31. When you're woozy with the thought of being with someone you have started to love, age is just a number right?
So we got married, Nov 8th 2009... And what a journey it has been. Full of ups and downs, sometimes more of the downs, than the ups, lots of tears, lots of laughter, scary thoughts.
Marriage is not easy. If anyone every told you that it was they are so wrong. If anyone ever told you that being married is easy breezy, they have never had a " happy" marriage.
The first one year is SO tough! nothing anybody tells you can give you a prelude to what lies ahead in the land of marital bliss.
At the ripe age of 23, I had to deal with in -laws, lots of expectations, cultural shock, age, adjustments and life, in general. My heart was bursting with the joy of being married.. but it also craved for freedom, independence and fun ( all which does not come with being "married" to an Indian joint household)
But we've Come to Age... Grown up maybe, Marriage and life threw tough obstacles in our way and we overcame them..
3 years down the lane and marriage seems , well blissful still. I won't deny that there were days when I cried wondering why I decided to marry so young or whether V was the right choice but somewhere in my heart I also knew that , there was a reason i still stuck around, for love. He loves me.. And I guess we all have different ways of displaying our emotions or showing the ones we love , that we care.
3 years and my heart skips a beat when I see V, so thats a good sign :)
Here is a picture that reminds me everyday, why I decided to stay married to V.
I was 23 and he was 31. When you're woozy with the thought of being with someone you have started to love, age is just a number right?
So we got married, Nov 8th 2009... And what a journey it has been. Full of ups and downs, sometimes more of the downs, than the ups, lots of tears, lots of laughter, scary thoughts.
Marriage is not easy. If anyone every told you that it was they are so wrong. If anyone ever told you that being married is easy breezy, they have never had a " happy" marriage.
The first one year is SO tough! nothing anybody tells you can give you a prelude to what lies ahead in the land of marital bliss.
At the ripe age of 23, I had to deal with in -laws, lots of expectations, cultural shock, age, adjustments and life, in general. My heart was bursting with the joy of being married.. but it also craved for freedom, independence and fun ( all which does not come with being "married" to an Indian joint household)
But we've Come to Age... Grown up maybe, Marriage and life threw tough obstacles in our way and we overcame them..
3 years down the lane and marriage seems , well blissful still. I won't deny that there were days when I cried wondering why I decided to marry so young or whether V was the right choice but somewhere in my heart I also knew that , there was a reason i still stuck around, for love. He loves me.. And I guess we all have different ways of displaying our emotions or showing the ones we love , that we care.
3 years and my heart skips a beat when I see V, so thats a good sign :)
Here is a picture that reminds me everyday, why I decided to stay married to V.
Love makes us question, it gives us answers too, it pacifies, it makes us cry but it skips a beat when we have someone to hand hold us through all that :)
ReplyDeleteThanks pallavi.. that's the feeling that keeps me going..
DeleteHey Sandhya, Simran here. R'ber Shopo? So nice to see you in the group :) I have been keeping tabs on Masala Popsicles off and on.
ReplyDeleteAnd very well written post. I have heard people saying Marriage is easy, everyone marries, things just happen on their own. I want to tell them, it's not. It takes work and things don't happen on their own. There are a lot of challenges and one needs to constantly work on a marriage to keep it fresh, working and strong. Looking fwd to more posts :)
Thanks Simran!! so nice to read your comments here. of course i remember you! Everyday i'm married , its constant work to " make the marriage work" its so easy to push it aside and not take effort, but getting a ship to not sink is what takes so much effort!
DeleteThanks for reading!
Sooo true about that first one year, and that goes for love marriages too ;). Living with somebody "full-time" wow that's quite a revelation. And I can imagine all the more adjustments that have to be made with a joint family too :).
ReplyDeleteAnd same-pinch I was 23 when I got married too! Though a lot more years have gone by in my case ;).
So much pressure when you get married young :) You're expected to be nubile, fertile, very flexible to change.. so tough.. but i guess being 23 and being married also allowed and helped me become a more matured and understanding person. :)
Deletesome how when i look back, at the 3 years i find that i deal with problems a lot differently than i would have at 23.
No relationship is every breezy..specially not with the one you share your life with.I started living with my man when I was 22 and we've been together for the past five years now..but each day is an effort we put in because we choose to be together. Also, I agree with the age is a just a number bit cuz V and I too have a hugeee age gap but that's again just a number..:)
ReplyDeleteTrue that !!Sometimes my husband says i'm from another generation :P
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